Perpetual Happy Marriage !
Since l published “our forty fourth anniversary”post on April 24, 2012 ,l been humbled,thrilled and excited by your kind and super wonderful comments which express your truly inner beauty.l been asked more often “how we keep our marriage alive “? “how we do it”?It is not a mystery neither a magical formula that we follow and it is not living a fantasy.
The secret lays within ourselves .The more we put into it ,the more we get out of it.A successful relationship is a product of Tolerance,Love,Sacrifice ,Patience and most of all communication and appreciation.(the magic words, for being you,-for being there,-for your humor-the laughs and enthusiasm)There are countless books and studies been written about the subjects of divorce , marriage and pairing .Despite all of that we witness a record cases of problem marriages and bitter divorces as results of getting married for the wrong reasons.Things will not change unless we change ourselves Period.There are studies suggest that 8 out of 10 marriages end in divorce.Other studies suggest 6 out of 10 marriages end in divorce.In any case ,nobody knows you as well as you know yourself.To be loved you ought to love the other.To be appreciated you ought to appreciate the other.Life is a two way path .You get what you put into it.
Here are 10 points l hope sincerely might help someone to have a happy marriage.( the question is not why we failed?the real question is” why didn’t we tried harder”?)
1-The Lord of peace and passion ,to be the center of your life.
2-The husband and wife ,respect each other even in their worst argument,misunderstanding and fight.
3-Consider themselves as one not two.
4-It helps to have a short memory.(forgive each other instantly,apologize ).
5-Embody love with deeds,not words.
6-Remind yourself of the marriage vows.
7-Marriage is a partnership,50/50.
8- Say l love you more often, with kisses and hugs.
9-Dont pass by any occasion ,birthday,anniversary ,valentine’s day.
10-Spend quality time together.
(He who believes in the prince of light ,owns a diamond ,he will never trades it for a rock…..Jalal Michael Sabbagh)